New Year, New Me-ntality
As the New Year begins, our laundry list of New Year’s resolutions grows and typically fades within the first week. So by now, they are usually gone. Our promises for the new year are broken so quickly, it makes us wonder why we bother to make them at all.But maybe there are some easier resolutions that will bring positivity into your 2017. The Beacon spoke with Tiger Simpson, the chair of the Green Dot program and the Wellness Education and Prevention Program Coordinator, to get an idea of what some “mentally healthy” resolutions might look like. If you’re on the look for some good tips to improve mental and emotional health, here are a few to keep in mind:
1. Stop apologizing so much! For many of us, it’s easy to start every sentence with the word “sorry”. Rephrase those “sorry” statements in a way that will paint yourself in a kinder light. If you feel tempted to make an unnecessary apology, try turning that “sorry” into a “thank you”. Instead of saying, “Sorry I’m so late,” take the blame off yourself and say “Thank you for waiting for me!” That way, you’re showing gratitude for those around you without throwing yourself under the bus. Don’t apologize for who you are and what you do (unless maybe you’re in the wrong), and don’t let others make you feel sorry about being yourself — love yourself and be confident in you.
2. Cut out toxic people or activities that leave you upset or distressed. Discover your love language and see that your relationships fulfill it, for romantic ones as well as platonic and familial. Your love language determines how your need for love is fulfilled and also how you express love. The 5 love languages
3. Pump yourself up to do things you’re dreading. Huge paper due next week? Jam out to your favorite tunes, start early and talk to your professor. Think of it less as a chore and more as one step closer to graduating!
4. Start building a positive support network that will be there for you in times of stress and emotional/mental trouble. Build strong, caring relationships with roommates, peers, professors, and nurture current relationships with friends and family. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it! Reach out to resources around you such as (but not limited to): the Health & Counseling Center, the Career Center, SARC, priests, your hall director, your academic advisors, etc.